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Two Years Today Mum Passed Away

Two years ago on this day and almost to the hour, I was sitting next to my mother’s hospital bed holding her hand as she lay her mouth open trying to draw air, less than an hour later she would pass away.

I had sat by her side trying to help her recover for 19 days, only leaving to go home for some brief sleep and to check and feed the cats, while a friend checked them at other times before I returned to sit with her.

Eventually, after initial recovery and receiving fast-tracked CHC funding she was denied of going to the local hospice or home as she wanted. A care company assessed her on the ward and the next day decided they would not provide support, CHC funding was then removed without given reason and her health declined.

I spent the last days in the hospital with her, sleeping in a chair when I couldn’t stay awake any longer, and only going home for a few minutes.

The hour before she died I said to my mother ‘I’m just going to feed the cats, I’ll be back in a minute, someone’s coming to sit with you.’ Whether she heard me I don’t know, but I would like to think she did and it comforted her.

I left the side room and asked a nurse to sit with my mother so she was not alone, while I went home for a few minutes to check and feed our cats, as usual.

The pandemic lockdown was yet to start, but I recall traffic was light and the journey home was quick.

As I finished putting the cats some treats with their food, my phone rang. It was the nurse who had kindly said they would sit with my mother while I was away. The nurse said ‘you need to come back, your mum is going.’

I rushed out of the house and was back at the hospital in minutes, making my way to the ward as fast as I could.
I reach the side room where my mother was and opened the door to find my mother alone, and as I looked at her I thought I saw her chest move as if exhaling.
I quickly held my mother’s hand and said ‘mum I’m back’ but notice she had stopped breathing and within seconds her hand was getting colder; mum was gone.

Mum was pronounced dead at 11.05 am, and a part of me died with her that day, I having failed to ensure her wish to pass away peacefully at home was upheld.
And significantly distressing, so far failing to uphold her long desire for me to ensure my vulnerable adopted brother is adequately cared for and supported.

Thanks for your email. Yes, this is already on our radar!

 

Earlier today I received some heavily redacted records from Herefordshire Council, among the records some of my social media posts and an internal Herefordshire Council email stating ‘Thanks for your email. Yes, this is already on our radar!, with an attached screenshot of my comment in the local newspaper from January 2022 taken using an Apple device, which can be seen in the below communication.

 

Not only surveilling my social media & website while harassing me with vexatious threats & restrictions for years but also spying on my comment on the local newspaper, the Hereford Times.
And yet, with surveillance continuing and months passing since I made a request to councillors to pursue the LAs regarding notice being served for proposed legal action against me, I’ve not received it.

 

 

Below are three pages, as received, of Herefordshire councils cherry-picked social media posts from my Twitter social media dating back to 2020.

 

Two Years Ago Today

Two years ago today (7th March 2020) my mother was recovering in hospital after a severe stroke, it was the last time I saw or had brief contact with my vulnerable adopted brother, Herefordshire Council and Priory Group maintaining their unwarranted restriction. Just over two weeks later, our mother would die in the hospital after initially appearing to recover.

The day my brother arrived at the hospital was unannounced after a request via email was ignored. Our mother had, fortunately, recovered a little at the time, and although exhausted was able to smile while briefly seeing her adopted son for a few minutes before signalling and quietly asking me for him to come another day, she falling asleep once again.

Furthermore, even though the pandemic was starting to become a concern, but not yet having official restrictions imposed, medical staff on the ward said I could continue to bring my brother to the ward to visit our mother because of our circumstances.

I never saw, or had contact with my brother again regardless of efforts trying to arrange for him to visit, nor, at least have contact via Skype while I was living in the hospital by my mother’s bedside. Herefordshire Council and Priory Group staff denying him of contact and lying about such.
Then just over two weeks later our mother distressingly passed away one morning after taking a sudden turn for the worst a few days before.

Additionally, to add insult to injury, my brother, as stated in other posts, was denied of attending our mother’s funeral with me, conflicting with government guidance at the time and particular legislation.

I live with the guilt of being powerless to have helped my brother maintain contact and visit our mother one last time. A court order contact schedule appearing to be worth no more than the paper it was written on.

Letter to Herefordshire Council Councillors

Below is my recent letter to councillors, which was delivered today.
After years of vexatious threats, deceit, punitive restrictions & concealing incidents of inadequate care, I request councillors assist in pursuing Herefordshire Council to provide notice of legal action against me for their accusations relating to alleged defamation.

Letter to councillors 14-01-2022_Redacted

 

Below, proof of delivery for the above letter.

 

The threatening & vexatious letter of 1st October 2021 which I refer to in my letter to councillors can be read, along with others, at this link

Threatening Letters

 

 

 

 

A Concerning Report

On 23rd December 2021, I received a phone call informing me of the continued neglect of care & support of my brother.
While I haven’t seen him since 7th March 2020 because the LA and Priory Group wouldn’t let him visit me and our dying mother after this date. He also denied of attending our mother’s funeral service with me by Herefordshire Council and the Priory Group, against government guidance and legislation, I continue to monitor.

Both organisations have created erroneous records, with particular evidence falsified since. The LA purposefully closed me out as an interested party in the health & welfare of my brother, while repeatedly sending me vexatious threatening letters proposing legal action.

I have nowhere to report concerns or incidents but hope we have the opportunity of accessing the Court of Protection once again, where I may be permitted to detail and evidence some of what organisations have deceived and lied about.

 

SAR 1st December 2021

On 1st December 2021, I submitted a Subject Access Request to Herefordshire Council via signed for post, requesting specific information from them to be sent to me electronically.
So far I’ve not received anything from them, not even an acknowledgement of delivery.

Below is a redacted copy of my SAR request letter, with copies of proof of delivery for the two letters I sent to Herefordshire Council.

Herefordshire Council SAR 01-12-2021 redacted

As a side note. A follow up to a request I submitted in 2018, was met with ignorance, and specific data has still not been received; that data includes communications from, to and between directors Stephen Vickers, Mandy Appleby, LA solicitor Kate Coughtrie and three other social care staff involved in creating erroneous records.
I’m aware Vickers and two social workers who created specious or spurious records have left the LA, while others who I’ve had the unfortunate and distressing experience of dealing with, and who deceived, lied and created similar records, remain.

 

 

Another Priory Group Falsehood Revealed

Last year I asked The Priory Group for phone logs of all calls to my home phone number, between June 2018 and August 2019, as they and social care staff claimed my brother was making regular landline calls to me and our mother.

Below is the internal email, revealing, once again, Priory Group staff lied, there being just one brief 46-seconds call in 14 months.

updated telephone call log history-Redacted

 

It is a similar story with regard to Skype calls over the years.

 

Another Birthday Come & Gone

This year I didn’t request for my brother to come home to celebrate my birthday with me.
As with previous requests, Priory Group would likely deny him of coming home as they have so many times before, including for his birthday earlier this year.

Regarding my brother’s birthday and request for him to come home, the emailed response and reason I received by the Priory manager for not allowing him to come home for his birthday was ‘not available as he is seeing family on his birthday.’

Government guidance regarding out of care home visits for both occasions linked below

Guidance Visits out of care homes Updated 15 June 2021

Guidance Visits out of care homes Updated 23 August 2021