On 10th February 2020, my brother came home for a short time & I met the tenth, in three years, manager of his Priory Group ‘care’ home.
Within two minutes, the manager SK had lied to me and further contradicted them self regarding Skype contact, once I mentioned Skype log files are stored for all missed and received calls.
My sibling and family denied regular Skype contact by The Priory Group and Herefordshire Council since 4th December 2013, when my brother was, without preparation or notice, moved from a relatively close-by home against family wishes, out of county and to The Priory Group ‘care’ home.
We have had a total of 3 minutes and 3 seconds of Skype contact since 4th December 2013, with various spurious reasons given for lack of communication by Priory and local authority staff.
And most recently not permitted contact since our last brief call on 10th August 2018, which lasted 1 minute 1 second before the then manager AW arm suddenly appeared reaching across the screen and disconnected us.
Below is a screenshot of Skype calls, showing the last call made and received by either of us.
The above is another example of the reality of the care system and lack of respect for vulnerable individuals and their family members rights.
The 10th August 2018.
That was the last day The Priory Group allowed my brother Skype contact with me and our mother and for a mere 1 minute 1 second.
In my opinion, this makes a mockery of the courts and a court order contact schedule that was placed on contact.
Another example of how our mother, who fostered many children over decades, and myself are regarded by Priory Group, their staff, and my local authority.
I remain hopeful of challenging court decisions one day and seeking justice against The Priory Group and particular deceitful and dishonest social care and advocacy staff.
Below is a list of some of my bullet points for a meeting held in 2016, which my local authority told me was a best interests meeting regarding the recurring neglect, abuse, and inadequate care and support of my vulnerable brother.
Some days later, I complained about the ‘professionals’ who failed to provide promised information and uphold agreements made at the meeting. They then later giving varying versions of meeting events in other letters and emails.
I, unfortunately, discovered there was no intention to move my sibling back home, or to an adequate and suitable care home closer to family, nor address concerns.
As you will note in the email below,
- For complaining about the negligence of the social worker and advocate, I was accused of having a mental health issue.
- For emailing to request information and arrange family home visits, I was accused of harassment and ‘doing my own thing’.
While I continue to witness my sibling regress and deteriorate under local authority and Priory Group ‘care’, the above is just one of many in a catalogue of failures and lies made by supposed professionals that my sibling and I have endured over the years.
I believe the email can evidence local authority priority is to support the provider and NOT the vulnerable in their care and their family members who raise concerns.
Bullet points for meeting 2016
DBest Interests Concerns Meeting 09-2016 (Bullet Points)_Redacted
S Sibanda email regarding meeting
Sarah Sibanda email regarding meeting concerns_Redacted
For the interest of the public, particularly those who have loved ones in care, the person who wrote the email left and went to a different provider: https://www.aspirationscare.com/contact-us/24-our-team
Do I forgive them for denying my vulnerable brother visits home and being a party to covering up what happened? Absolutely not.
As suspected, my brother, disappointingly, never arrived for his scheduled visit on 23rd December 2019, which I tried to arrange, nor did anyone attempt to make contact with me or collect his Christmas presents. We again denied of time together and contact on a special occasion.
I have no doubts that some spurious tale will be given to me in future, regarding this missed visit.
On Sat, 21st Dec 2019, I sent an email to The Priory Group and their ‘care’ home manager to arrange for a scheduled family home visit for my brother, as per the agreed contact schedule imposed on us. And as our mother and me will not be seeing him for Christmas; denied of this important time together, for the first time in 42 years.
My sent email can be seen below, along with the only response I received; an automated vacation reply. Data suggests my emails are once again being blocked to some Priory Group addresses.
I am doubtful that my request will receive any further response, ignored yet again, as they have so often been so many times over the past five years.
I will write an update in a day or so, whether or not I receive any further response or manage to get my brother home for a short time and an early Christmas with us.
My sent email 21122019s
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Received email 21122019r
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This year, and for the first time in 42 years, my vulnerable adopted brother won’t be home to spend Christmas with my mother and me, he will spend it in a Priory Group ‘care’ home we did not want him to go to, and where I have repeatedly raised concerns.
With communication, a constrained one-way channel with my local authority since their block on such started in 2017, and I remaining denied of being my brother’s representative for almost a decade, I have no route to challenge or appeal our contact.
However, I hope to see him on Monday 23rd for a couple of hours, and cook him a Christmas dinner; but will have no photo/video record for my mother’s memories.
While I’ve witnessed my adopted sibling become de-skilled and regressed in ‘care’ with the negligence of ‘professionals’ who worked to conceal what has occurred. I hope others out there who have a loved one forced into the care system have their situation improved in the coming new year.
And while I feel aggrieved and dispirited at losing my sibling to an institutional care system, at least I can ensure our mother enjoys Christmas this year and is cared for properly.
And to those who know of my continuing care battles, I wish you a HaPpY ChRiStMaS.
Please keep signing and share my petition to parliament regarding CCTV in all care homes where vulnerable people live. Thank you.
Some weeks ago I submitted a freedom of information request regarding social workers employed by Herefordshire Council, having discovered via a check with the HCPC (Health and Care Professions Council) the one assigned to my vulnerable brother was practising and using the title of social worker before being registered with the HCPC.
Not only did Herefordshire Council claim to not know of this and later say they were employed in another role while using the title of social worker, but they also stated in a freedom of information request the number of social workers struck off by the HCPC was ‘Nil‘, a complete untruth as can be seen in my FOI request and annotations:
Freedom of Information Request comment-88847
I also later asked how many social workers had been reported or struck off by the HCPC between 2013 and 2019, the response and some of the information I requested can be seen in the below link, Please note the response to Q.2 of my request by The HCPC and my annotations:
Freedom of Information Request HCPC Social Workers Struck off Response 1437722
Today is my mother’s 89 Birthday; sadly, my brother was only allowed to visit us yesterday. And for the first time in over 40 years, we have no Birthday photo/video record of us together due to current CoP restrictions.
Why can’t our family be like any other family?